Managing Anxiety and Stress at the Holidays
- Yasmin Maghsoudloo
- Oct 5
- 3 min read
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The holiday season is often painted as the “most wonderful time of the year”—filled with family gatherings, celebrations, and traditions. But for many, it’s also a period marked by increased anxiety, stress, and emotional strain. Between financial pressures, family conflicts, unrealistic expectations, and social obligations, the holidays can become overwhelming instead of joyful.
If you find yourself dreading the holiday season or struggling to keep your stress under control, you’re not alone. In this blog, we’ll explore the causes of holiday anxiety and stress, why this time of year can be especially difficult, and practical strategies for managing your mental health during the festivities.
Why Are the Holidays Stressful?
Understanding the triggers behind holiday stress can help you better prepare and respond in healthier ways. Common causes include:
Financial strain from gift-giving, travel, or events
Family conflicts or strained relationships resurfacing during gatherings
Social expectations and pressure to attend events or appear cheerful
Grief or loneliness, especially for those who have lost loved ones
Busy schedules that disrupt sleep, exercise, and self-care routines
Unrealistic expectations fueled by media portrayals of “perfect holidays”
For individuals managing mental health conditions, addiction recovery, or trauma histories, these stressors can feel even more intense.
Signs of Holiday Anxiety and Stress
Holiday-related stress doesn’t always look the same as everyday anxiety. Watch for these signs:
Irritability or mood swings
Sleep problems (insomnia or oversleeping)
Fatigue and low energy
Overeating, undereating, or emotional eating
Increased substance use (alcohol or drugs as coping tools)
Avoiding gatherings or social interactions
Physical symptoms like headaches, muscle tension, or digestive issues
Recognizing these signs early can help you take action before stress escalates.
Strategies for Managing Holiday Anxiety and Stress
1. Set Realistic Expectations
The holidays don’t have to be perfect. Release the pressure to meet every tradition or please everyone. Focus on what matters most to you and your loved ones.
2. Create a Budget—and Stick to It
Financial stress is a major trigger. Make a realistic budget for gifts, travel, and activities. Remember: thoughtful gestures often mean more than expensive presents.
3. Prioritize Self-Care
Keep up with regular sleep, nutrition, and exercise habits.
Schedule downtime for yourself, even on busy days.
Practice mindfulness or meditation to reduce stress in the moment.
4. Learn to Say No
It’s okay to decline invitations or scale back commitments. Protecting your mental health should take priority over pleasing others.
5. Plan Ahead
Avoid last-minute stress by planning meals, shopping, and travel early. A little preparation can prevent feelings of chaos.
6. Manage Family Dynamics
If family gatherings are stressful, set boundaries. Limit your time at events or plan breaks to decompress.
7. Stay Connected
If you feel lonely, reach out to supportive friends, join a community group, or volunteer. Connection reduces feelings of isolation.
8. Limit Alcohol and Substances
Alcohol and drugs can worsen anxiety and depression. Stay mindful of your intake, especially if you’re in recovery.
9. Practice Gratitude
Taking time each day to acknowledge what you’re thankful for can shift your mindset and reduce stress.
10. Seek Professional Support
If stress and anxiety become overwhelming, therapy, counseling, or support groups can provide valuable tools and perspective.
Managing Anxiety During Holiday Gatherings
Social gatherings can be particularly stressful. Here are some quick tips to keep anxiety in check:
Practice deep breathing before and during events.
Have a “safe exit plan” if you feel overwhelmed.
Focus on one-on-one conversations rather than large groups.
Carry grounding tools like a calming playlist or stress ball.
Supporting Loved Ones Who Struggle
If someone you love experiences holiday anxiety or depression:
Offer empathy, not pressure.
Respect their boundaries.
Invite them without expectation—sometimes just being included matters.
Encourage professional help if they seem deeply overwhelmed.
Final Thoughts
The holiday season can be joyful, but it doesn’t have to be perfect. By recognizing the signs of holiday anxiety and stress and using healthy coping strategies, you can protect your mental health and even create new traditions that bring genuine peace and joy.
Remember, managing stress is not selfish—it’s essential for enjoying the season in a way that feels authentic to you.
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